Weekends full of celebrations, family get togethers, and potlucks start right about now.And if you’re in cohabitation with a big bad devil dog, it also means the frantic run around preparing for the annual Marine Corps ball. Let the panic commence!

First ball? In the dark about what to even be looking for? Has your Marine responded with something like “short and sexy”? Well, he might not be totally right. While of course you want to feel your best, it’s not in your greatest interest to listen to someone who’s been out in the field for weeks and hasn’t seen unshaven legs since your beach vacation, three months ago. You can’t go wrong with a floor length gown or even a knee length dress, but above the knee? You may be pushing it. Plus, you can get away with not shaving for another night.

So you’ve got the length in mind but what about up top? This is where we have a little bit more wiggle room (unless you plan on wearing full-body Spanx, which by the way, most of us are). Sleeveless is totally acceptable, as well as one shoulder, cap sleeve, and halter. One last thing, cleavage is fine but risking a slip if you exhale? Save it for New Year’s Eve.

Footwear is pretty imperative considering there is a lot of mingling and walking around involved. Can you run a marathon in heels? You go girl. But if you don’t feel confident in your shaky ankles, pack a pair of flats just in case. Dr. Scholl’s even makes packable pairs that fit perfectly into any clutch. If you’re in a floor length dress, no one will even know. Other items you want to make sure you’re taking inside is your ID, a few dollars cash, and a spare hotel room key (if you’re deciding to stay over).

The most important thing is to feel comfortable and confident in whatever dress you choose but also paying respect to the event that you’re attending. Keep the drinking to a minimum and if you both decide to drink, get a room (check with the hotel for a group discount). You are a reflection of not only your Marine and the Corps but most importantly of yourself. Remember. It’s an honor to attend one of the baddest birthdays of the year, even if you are in Spanx.

What makes you feel most confident at a special event?